It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way

I am sure that I am not the only parent who has heard the other “adults” in the children’s lives say “it doesn’t have to be this way” as they continue to cause trouble. It can be very confusing to me so I can only imagine the emotional toll it takes on our children.

Here are some signs you may be dealing with people that are more concerned about themselves than doing what is best for the children:

  • Always refer to children as “my children” “my kids” “my son” “my daughter” never “our”
  • Name call
  • Constantly taunt you and remind you of the power they have
  • Attack you, your spouse and innocent children
  • Interfere with your communication to the children
  • Threaten to ruin your relationship with the children and how they perceive you
  • Offer unsolicited parenting advice (I personally do not take advice from people that I would not switch places with)
  • Lie constantly-when caught their story changes…again
  • Make false accusations
  • Interfere with packages and letters sent to the children
  • Manipulate everyone and everything to hide the truth
  • Always act as though they want to work together but can’t stop making threats and belittling comments
  • Threaten you won’t see the children unless you do what they say or want

A couple of my personal favorites are:

-The child ownership statement…”The child came from my coochi and I will do what I want with them!” To this day I still cringe when I think of that statement. What kind of lady talks that way?

-Say what?…”When you moved to get life-saving treatment, you made a conscious decision to abandon and forego activities and decisions in your children’s lives.”

*The views expressed in this post are the opinions of the writer and not about any particular person or people. If you think it is about you, that may just be your guilty conscience 🙂

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One thought on “It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way

  1. I cried when I read this, I’ve spent most of my adult life, trying to have a reasonable relationship,and motherly intentions for my children! But to no avail, because they are brainwashed by another person who has done everything in their power, to abuse me and abuse me against the children I brought into this world, I have a massive hole in my live, I don’t know what I feel anymore except empty!! Xx

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