Written by the wife of disableddaddy:
Today, this article came across my Facebook feed. https://womenwithworth.wordpress.com/2014/11/30/a-open-letter-to-my-daughters-stepmom/
I was happy for these women that were blessed with this special relationship. It is a true gift to be able to put aside hurt and jealous emotions to do what is in the best interests of the children. I am envious of how well they get along for their daughter. I’m envious of how much they appreciate and respect each other. It brought tears to my eyes. Happy tears for them; sad tears for our children. I used to hold out hope that I would have a healthy relationship with the mother of my husbands’ children, but with recent events, I believe it would take a miracle for this to happen.
It is important for the children to see and feel that all the adults that they love in their lives get along. It should be their right to love all the adults in their lives without having to worry about upsetting one or another of the adults. They are made up of half of their mom and half of their dad; and loving them means you love all of them, even the parts that come from the other parent. Disrespecting the other parent also means you are disrespecting and hurting the children. It isn’t always easy to hold your tongue but it is important for the emotional well being of the children.
It has always been said that it takes a village to raise a child, and in our world, that village consists of parents and step parents that come together to raise our children to be smart, beautiful, emotionally healthy adults. Every adult in this equation is important to the children and that means putting aside differences to do what is best for the children; even when that is hard, even when it means that we compromise and everyone feels like they lost a little. Children are the future; of our country and of our world. They deserve to have great examples of what it means to be an adult and co-parents. They deserve to be safe and healthy. They deserve to have all of their parents in their lives. We all need to stand up for our children and their futures and fight to have a healthy family, because we shape what kind of adults they will become.