As I sit here at the start of Christmas Eve I am sad that all I wanted for Christmas was to see my children but unfortunately due to vindictive, selfish people and a broken Indiana Family Court system this parent will not get that present. It is sad for the children that their best interest have never been considered and the people that should protect them have failed. My 13, 10 and 7 year old daughters have NEVER went a Christmas break without visiting their daddy. Sadly this will be a year now since I have been allowed to see my 6 year old son. What makes it worse is the reasoning behind why I am not allowed to visit my children…which is there is no good reason. Amazingly the other parents have abused the children physically, abused the children emotionally and neglected their medical care with no accountability. The courts have supported the Parental Alienation against me and have made it difficult to defend my children.
I happen to have male reproductive organs but that does not make me a lesser parent nor a better parent. There are two parents that happen to have specific needed roles for proper raising of the children. It takes both parents to create that child last I checked. I think the mentality for many can be said best by the mother of my son and I quote “He came from my coochi and I will do whatever the hell I want with him!”
I would think that in the quickly approaching year of 2015 people would be more open minded to gender does not make you a good parent…being a good parent does 🙂 Our society tells us we need more good parents, especially fathers, but the courts and vindictive exes are allowed to destroy this fathers relationship with his children for no reason. If we continue to minimize the importance of parents, especially men, then how can we expect young boys and girls to respect this role?
Obviously I am a disabled daddy so naturally this is the first attack by the other parents. I will say that my disability has never put my children’s safety at risk. My disability has never caused me to forget to give my children their medicine. My disability has never allowed me to ignore seizures that my child was having. My disability never allowed my child to be touched inappropriately in my home. My disability has never caused me to forgot the medical care of my special needs child. My disability has never caused me to forget dental care and eye care for my children. My disability has never caused me to throw away presents from the other parent including special memories. My disability has never caused me to alienate the other parents. My disability has never caused me to send just enough seizure medication for my children. My disability has never caused me to care more about a medical bill than medical treatment for my children. My disability never caused me to hit my children or pull their hair. My disability never caused me to call my children names. My disability never caused me to emotionally abuse my children and think its funny. My disability has never caused me to play games with medical treatment while my child suffered in pain. My disability has never caused me to withhold packages for my children from the other parent.
Now I am not the smartest person in the world. My three older daughter’s mom likes to remind me that “I barely graduated high school.” She is right that we can not all have a fancy degree and title like RN, Registered Nurse, after our name but I do remind her that I am smart enough to get my children their medical care including the care of our Make-A-Wish child. I also do not have a fancy early childhood education degree but if I did have a degree I would be working instead of living off other hardworking taxpayers.
I am still confused how I got punished and my rights to my children taken away for simply trying to protect them…not like anyone else was!
I was trying to decide what I could have my 2 year old make her favorite people for Christmas presents. During our search on Pinterest together we came across a word pendant tutorial at http://www.thenshemade.com that was perfect! My daughter had a lot of fun making these and kept one for herself as a reward for her hard work 🙂
Things You Need:
Clay-I used Sculpey Terrra Cotta but any color or brand will work.
Shape Cutters-I used the cap from a hair product.
Stylus-I used a straightened paper clip.
Fine Sand Paper
Protective Glaze (optional)
Paint Brush (optional)
1. Preheat oven to 275 degrees.
2. Lay out a piece of wax paper to create a non-stick work area that will protect surfaces from any residue left by the clay.
3. Break off a piece of clay and knead it for a few minutes until soft and workable. Roll clay into a ball then press flat making sure to keep a consistent thickness.
4. Take your stamp and make impression into the clay.
5. Use your cutter to make the shape you want then carefully remove excess clay.
6. Add a hole in the pendant for your string.
7. If you want to add a word to your pendant this is the time. I used the end of a straightened paper clip to poke out each letter one dot at a time.
8. To make a bead, take a small piece of clay forming the desired shape you want. Poke a hole through the center of bead and add a design if wanted.
9. Put pendant and bead onto cookie sheet and bake at 275 for 15 minutes. Allow clay to cool completely after baking.
10. Use a fine sandpaper to smooth any rough or sharp areas.
11. You can add a protective coat with a paint brush now if you want by following directions on the bottle.
12. Cut a long piece of hemp string then fold in half. Insert loop (folded end) into hole in the pendant then pull two lines from other end of the string through loop until tight.
13. Add bead then tie loose ends together completing your pendant necklace.
There are many designs and additional ways to make these pendants unique while having fun with the kiddos.
Speaking of birthdays…while recently talking with my 10 and 7 year old about technology I realized how old I am. I remember when my 13 year old was little I had a large video recorder used to capture special moments and sharing this video meant you drove to someones house to watch it with them 🙂 It is amazing that now we can capture any moment on our phones and upload it to the world in a matter of seconds.
This is my youngest singing Happy Birthday to her mommy as the star and director 🙂