Parental Alienation Is Real

Today is my son’s 8th birthday🙂 Hard to believe he is that old but harder to believe that I have not been allowed to see him in 30 months for no reason. I am not a child abuser, drug abuser or any danger to my son. I was allowed to be a part of his life for 5 1/2 years and he was always happy, healthy and well taken care of while in my care.

So I ask myself why a good father has been denied access to his child for over 2 years? Oh, I almost forgot about the parental alienation from his vindictive mother. Or the way she uses the broken, corrupt, unjust family courts and laws to keep him from me.

There are many people that say Parental Alienation or PA is not a real thing. Those same people have either never had their children kept from them, are guilty of PA themselves, or profit from its use.

March 16th, 2015

Dear ——–,

It saddens me that you have decided to cut me out of our (yep, it took both of us to create him) child’s life because of your own selfish desire to hurt me. I am not surprised as you made it clear early in his life that if I wasn’t with you, I would only see him when you allowed. You even threatened to kill our child so my family and I couldn’t see him!

I appreciate that I got to teach him a lot and see some of his “firsts” because you allowed me to watch him while you worked. I also appreciated the time I was allowed to watch him while you dated your now husband. Thank God I was able to spend time with him to discover he was having seizures and get him treatment. I am sorry I took you to court but you put that on yourself by failing to give him his seizure medication.

I appreciate you allowing our son to come to California for 3 weeks in 2013. I appreciate you allowing our son to spend a week with me on his Christmas break in 2013. Hmmm…I am a great daddy and our son loves me but you won’t allow our son to visit in over a year?

What makes it worse is you know his daddy is sick, yet you still have no soul…

Just because the law gives you all the power, does not mean you should use it to hurt our child. Sure, you are hurting me but you are destroying our innocent child with your actions. I know how to cope with crazy adults that only care about themselves but our child does not have that ability. Your actions have continued to show how much you do not care about anyone but yourself.

Everyone wants to throw out the word “deadbeat” for fathers but any mother that stands in the way of her children having a relationship with their father is the true “deadbeat.” You take it even further by being college educated but not working while collecting money from the citizens of Indiana. I forgot, you do babysit for cash so you are not sitting on your lazy behind doing nothing all day…oh, I almost forgot that our son was touched inappropriately by one of the children your were to be “WATCHING!”

I know your response will be how you carried him for 9 months so that makes our child YOUR property. I can not change that I was born with male reproductive organs and can not experience the miracle of child birth. Trust me if I could, I would!! Being male does not make me less of a parent. How are you going to feel when our son has children and some female does, to our son and his family, what you are doing right now?

How are you going to explain to our son what you have done when he finally figures out that YOU chose to hurt him to get back at his daddy?

There is still time for you to repair the damage that has been done but that window gets smaller each day that you fail to recognize your bad behavior.

Your actions will eventually have consequences whether you have to answer to our son or God.

June 16th, 2008 Holding my little man :)
June 16th, 2008 Holding my little man🙂

Parental Alienation Destroys Innocent Children’s Lives

Parental Alienation is child abuse! The emotional and psychological damage is severe and can last a lifetime. Parental Alienation causes the child to have low self esteem, self hatred, lack of trust, depression, substance abuse and many other issues that they would not otherwise suffer.

Suddenly taking a 5 1/2 year olds involved, loving father, stepmom and 4 siblings that he loves out of his life is abuse. The abuse is not to one child but 5 innocent children as his siblings are just as affected by the alienation.

June 16th, 2008 Holding my little man :)
June 16th, 2008 Holding my little man
Big sis is going to be a good mommy one day :)
Big sis is going to be a good mommy one day🙂
Scaring her little brother :)
Scaring her little brother🙂

Working those legs :)

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1st Christmas!
1st Christmas🙂
1st Birthday :)
1st Birthday🙂

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Just swinging :)
Just swinging🙂

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2nd Christmas :)
2nd Christmas🙂

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Daddy's Birthday :)
Daddy’s Birthday🙂
Easter :)
Easter🙂
Best Buddies :)
Best Buddies🙂

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Best Buddies :)
Best Buddies🙂

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Staying warm :)
Staying warm🙂

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Just resting our eyes :)
Just resting our eyes🙂
Caught ya!
Caught ya!

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3rd Birthday :)
3rd Birthday🙂

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Proud Big Brother :)
Proud Big Brother🙂
1st time on the slide :)
1st time on the slide🙂
Lincoln Park Zoo :)
Lincoln Park Zoo🙂

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5th Birthday :)
5th Birthday🙂

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Ladies man :)
Ladies man🙂

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Asks "Where my brother go?"
Asks “Where my brother go?”

 

A parent that loves their child would never hurt them by cutting out their other loving parent.

Pumpkin Spice Pancakes

My girls want pancakes 4-5 times a week for breakfast and do not seem to be burning out on them yet. Meanwhile, I need some variety because I am getting tired of making the same pancakes. These Pumpkin Spice Pancakes were a nice change without any complaints🙂

Ingredients:

  • 1 cup all purpose flour
  • 1/2 cup whole wheat pastry flour
  • 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
  • 3/4 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1/2 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice
  • 1/4 teaspoon nutmeg
  • 1/4 teaspoon ginger
  • 1/8 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 cup pure pumpkin
  • 2 tablespoons maple syrup
  • 2 cups favorite plant base milk

Directions:

  1. In a large bowl, whisk together both flours, baking powder, spices and salt.
  2. Stir in pumpkin, maple syrup and milk until well combined.
  3. Heat a griddle or non-stick pan and lightly coat with a vegan butter like Earth Balance.
  4. Pour some batter on griddle and cook for a couple minutes on each side.

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Oven Roasted Potatoes

My wife and kids love oven roasted potatoes for breakfast, dinner or even a snack. These potatoes are simple to make which is a win for me🙂

Ingredients:

  • 10-12 baby red potatoes
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 teaspoon dried parsley
  • 1 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon garlic salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon pepper
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
  2. Line baking sheet with parchment paper.
  3. Scrub potatoes then slice in half and each half into quarters. (do not peel)
  4. Place potatoes, olive oil and seasonings into large ziploc bag and toss until well coated.
  5. Spread potatoes on baking sheet and bake in the oven for 30-35 minutes.
  6. Serve with ketchup, ranch or sour cream.

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Vegan Mac and Cheese

A healthy version of Mac and Cheese that the kids love…priceless🙂

Ingredients:

  • 1 russet potato, peeled and cubed
  • 3 large carrots, cut into 1/2 inch rounds
  • 1/4 yellow onion, diced
  • 2 cups water
  • 1/2 cup Earth Balance spread
  • 1/2 cup nutritional yeast
  • 1/2 teaspoon turmeric
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4-1/2 cup plant based milk
  • 10 ounce box gluten free pasta, cooked

Directions:

  1. Place potato, carrot, onion and 2 cups of water into pan, cover with a lid and simmer for 20 minutes.
  2. Turn off heat and drain most of water out of pan.
  3. Stir in Earth Balance spread, nutritional yeast, turmeric and salt until well combined and spread has melted.
  4. Pour mixture from pan into a blender along with the milk and blend until smooth and creamy.
  5. Turn heat on low and pour cheese sauce over cooked pasta. Stir until combined.
  6. Enjoy🙂

I also like to mix in Steamed Broccoli http://wp.me/p5jtEl-5P

This Mac and Cheese recipe was adapted from http://www.onegreenplanet.org 

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Chickpea Nuggets

Switching the family to a plant based diet has been easier than I expected thanks to finding alternatives to some of the kids favorite foods🙂 This chickpea nugget recipe is a very good alternative to chicken nuggets.

Ingredients:

  • 3 cups cooked chickpeas
  • 3/4 teaspoon salt
  • 3/4 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon onion powder
  • 2 tablespoons nutritional yeast
  • 2 tablespoons gluten free Italian bread crumbs
  • 1/2 cup gluten free Italian bread crumbs for coating

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees and line baking sheet with parchment paper.
  2. Place 1/2 cup of bread crumbs into a bowl and set aside.
  3. Add all other ingredients to a food processor for 30 seconds or until well mixed.
  4. Scoop out a tablespoon of mix and form into nugget shape.
  5. Coat each nugget with bread crumbs then place onto baking sheet.
  6. Bake for 20 minutes, flip, cook additional 10 minutes.

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